For those of you who have more than one child I’m sure you have undoubtedly dealt with sibling disagreements…o.k. more like fights, over toys, maybe even bossy toddlers and figuring out ways to get your children to get along for more than 5 minutes. It’s probably the age my boys are at (21 months) but these little guys surely know what they want and can demonstrate a fierce, stubborn tenacity about getting their way. Anyone relate?
My husband and I laugh (in an amazed, what do we do kind of way) when we witness this behavior from our little angels (joke). The reason we laugh is because we know that no one taught them how to act this way…it’s inborn- the stubborn self-centered nature that I believe we are all born with.
So what to do? We’re not sure. All we do know to do is to try to redirect while at the same time letting the offending child know that it’s not o.k. to take another toy away from their brother. We try to communicatie sharing and taking turns. There are some days where we witness one of them actually waiting for the other one to be “done” with a toy and then the waiting child swoops in like a vulture to swipe the toy before brother changes his mind about leaving the toy. We make every effort to acknowledge the patient responses to hopefully reinforce the good behavior.
So the age old question with twins(in my experience) is do you buy them two of everything?
I’d have to say it just depends. Over all we have been pretty staunch about NOT buying them two of everything. Yet there are some toys that if we had two of would make life in our little household alot more peaceful. The funny thing is even if we happen to have two of the same toy one of the boys will get fixated on the certain toy and even when offered the same exact toy- he insists on having the one his brother has. Crazy, huh?
This christmas I’m planning on buying the boys a Fisher Price Lawn Mower. Yes, one for each of them. The boys love pushing things around and would absolutely love these. Here’s a pic:
What say you about toddlers, sharing and helping to create peace in the home?